grubs ( member #77165) posted at 10:03 PM on Thursday, July 2nd, 2026
But at the same time, there's no strong evidence of anything happening, let alone sex. I also don't believe she changed her outfit just because she was sweating it could have been because of the swimming pool. She never told me what kind of dancing it was. All I know is that, at one point, they were paired with men.
What evidence do you think you would have that anything happened? Your wife seems pretty savvy. She's not going leave traces if she wants to keep her happy household and still have her fun.
That nagging concern you have isn't going to go away on it's own. Its going to fester and until you are questioning what she is up to ever time she's out of sight. Not when she's dismissing doing anything active to directly address your concerns. Words are cheap. Business people are also used to using their words to manipulate others. To convince them to invest or purchase. To soothe others concerns. That she is only offering words when she knows her latest GNO has you off kilter isn't the best of signs. The next step is her getting frustrated with you for not falling back in line. I'd be sure you know what the end of your marriage looks like just in case.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:42 PM on Saturday, July 4th, 2026
I respect the business opportunity in front of her.
I also think she needs to choose - your request or her opportunity. If there is one thing I learned as a result of affairs, if a spouse requests no contact with a person for whatever reason, it should be honored.
It’s not controlling (if it’s 1 request as in this situation). It’s about respect. Period.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
fournlau ( member #71803) posted at 12:08 AM on Sunday, July 5th, 2026
Wrong post. Sorry
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